Always in Our Hearts - Sarah Rose Catherine Broeder

Always in Our Hearts - Sarah Rose Catherine Broeder This page is dedicated to the memory of our beloved daughter and sister, who died tragically in a car accident on May 30, 2011, at the age of 16.

04/28/2022
05/11/2021

This morning, Facebook reminded me that I posted this nine years ago on Mother's Day. It is still as true today as it was then.
I did not write this, but the woman who did speaks beautifully for so many of us.

"Please share this--one more parent giving up is NOT OK! Please put it on your wall!
Things I will no longer do:
I will no longer hide my pain, even when you want me to.
I will no longer smile and pretend nothing is bothering me just to make you more comfortable.
I will no longer pretend like my daughter never existed, just because you think I should be "back to normal.”
I will no longer be who I was before, so please don't expect it. This is my new normal.
I will no longer hide the tears because you don't understand.
I will no longer dishonor my daughter by never saying her name.
I will no longer apologize for my tears.
I will never "get over this.”
Things I will do:
I will get through this with love and care from those around me.
I will always have a part of me missing.
I will get stronger, and I will honor my child by keeping her alive in my heart.
I will forgive you when you say stupid and hurtful things. I will realize that it is your ignorance of the pain.
I will be here if -- God forbid -- this pain ever visits you, and I will never ask that you hide your pain, your loss, and your grief.
I will honor my child's memory by living through this, in spite of people who think I am being melodramatic, self-seeking, and depressing to be around.
I have known of Moms and Dads who could not handle the pain of loss and took their own lives. I ask that you realize that this pain needs to be acknowledged by me and those who love me.
I refuse to allow you to take away what helps me deal with this, and helps me to wake up every day for the rest of my life without my child. Because not sharing my pain and not acknowledging the hole in my life means it didn't matter. That hole matters to me, and it should matter to you.
I understand you have no idea what I feel, and will not hate you, but I also will not accept that your feelings are more important than my going on.
If you don't like that I cry, that I am different than before, and you cower or roll your eyes when I need to say my child's name, then I will also understand that you are no longer a big part of my life.
I expect you to love me any way. If you can't, then please move on, because this is who I am now. My daughter will always be in my heart and on my mind.
I understand that you think that is “all I think about," but before she was gone I was like you -- thinking she will always be here. I had more important things to do. Sure, there were times I didn't hug her before she left the house, or times on the phone I missed saying,”I love you,” just like you do now. But I have also realized that when I lost my child, all of those opportunities are gone. So while you go ahead with your life with your children, remember that you could never just forget they existed, so I will not either.
My life, my child, means more to me than your selfish feelings, so I will not pretend that you care about me while you avoid my daughter’s memory or my pain. They are always in my heart.
Please, share this on your wall. I refuse to believe that other Moms and Dads will die because they have no support!
By Mary Menzel, in loving memory of Jason Garret Menzel 6/21/79~10/16/09, ALWAYS a part of me!"

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Sarah Rose Catherine Broeder went home to be with the Lord on May 30, 2011, in Willcox, Ariz. She was born March 12, 1995, in Phoenix, Ariz., to Chuck and Carol (Rose) Broeder. She moved with her family to Willcox February 1996.

She attended First Baptist Christian School (now Joanne Todd Christian School), as well as Willcox Middle and High Schools. She was a homeschooling high school student, who was also working toward earning her Associates Degree at the Cochise College campus in Willcox. She planned to become a Labor and Delivery Nurse, though Veterinary Medicine was a strong second choice. She currently worked at both McDonald's and the Rex Allen Theater. She had also worked at Apple Annie's Farm, Encore Dance Academy, and her family's shop, Cheery Cows Antiques and Collectibles.

Sarah Rose was active at Sacred Heart Church as an altar server, lector, and Eucharistic Minister, as well as being a Catechism teacher's aide and helped our pastor Fr. Stein to train new altar servers. She danced competitively with Encore Dance Academy, was a talented musician (clarinet); an award-winning photographer, and contributed to TAG Magazine.

Sarah Rose had the lifelong dream of going to college at her mother's alma mater, Arizona State University (ASU) in Tempe, for their "awesome" dance and music programs. At the time of her death, she was looking forward to the possibility of playing the clarinet in band again, and dreamed of becoming a Drum Major for the Willcox High School Marching Band while her sister Elizabeth was Flagline Captain. She also hoped to expand her musical ability by learning to play the cello.