04/14/2026
Our LGBTQ+ kids often carry more than we can see.
Not because they don’t trust us…
but because they’re still figuring things out themselves.
Or they’re afraid of being misunderstood.
Or they’ve learned, somewhere along the way, to keep certain parts of themselves quiet.
And then sometimes…
we find out later.
Years later.
We hear about something they went through, something they felt, something they needed—and we had no idea.
Not because we didn’t care.
But because we didn’t know how to ask.
So here’s a simple question that can open a door:
“What’s one thing you need from me that I might not be noticing?”
It’s gentle.
It’s curious.
It removes pressure.
And it tells your child: I want to show up for you better.
They might not have an answer at first.
That’s okay.
Keep asking - not everyday - maybe once a week.
Not in a heavy way…
but in a steady, consistent, I’m here when you’re ready kind of way.
Because over time, something shifts.
Walls soften.
Trust builds.
And one day—they’ll tell you something they’ve been holding.
And when they do…
you’ll be ready to listen.
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Sometimes the most powerful thing we can do as parents isn’t having all the answers—
It’s creating the kind of space where our kids feel safe enough to share theirs.
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