02/24/2024
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How do you recover from setbacks?? Focus on what you can control!
When you experience a setback, ask yourself, “How can I do this differently next time?”
Which is something my family got tired of me asking. Cause every time my wife or kids would upset me, I’d ask, “How could I have done this differently?” And they’d say, “Well, you could just be nicer and not scream at us.”
And I said, “No, I mean, how could I do this differently with a new family?”
Now, the mistake that I made was saying this out loud. So I had to say, “Look. You heard me say that. But you’re only hearing the downside. The upside is that this father and husband you have is exercising his locus of control. That’s resilience. So maybe I can follow in his footsteps rather than hearing things I’m not supposed to hear.”
Because when I said those things out loud I was actually screaming them in my primal scream room, which is a small closet I have in the basement. And sure, if you stand right outside of it, you’re might hear some things you shouldn't.
So I told my kids, if you want to activate your locus of control, then you go ask your mother why she’s undermining me and why you aren’t comfortable with a father who fails consistently. I didn’t know we were supposed to be 'the perfect family.'"
So build that resilience muscle!
