10/09/2026
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Part of the bear community's history is about making room for bodies that didn't fit the narrow gay male ideal. Bigger, hairier, older, different.
But finding the bear scene doesn't mean body image, self-esteem or mental health suddenly become easy. Research shows that gay and bisexual men can face particular pressures around appearance, and we also know that LGBTQ+ people are at greater risk of suicidal thoughts, su***de attempts and self-harm. (Source: Mental Health Foundation)
If you're struggling, tell someone. You don't need to wait until things are unbearable, and you don't need to know exactly what to say.
And if you know a mate is having a rough time, check in on them. Sometimes sending that message really does matter.
If you need support:
๐ Samaritans: 116 123, free 24 hours a day
๐ NHS 111: select the mental health option
๐ฌ In Sussex, text SUSSEX to 85258 for free 24/7 mental health support
๐จ If you or someone else is in immediate danger, call 999