06/03/2016
Having and raising 3 kids on my own, I quickly learned as they grew into preteens and older that I could not control decisions they made, and when I tried, it would backfire and things would tend to go sideways. Outcomes I would try and prevent would happen more often.
What I learned through courses, multiple lessons and working with other kids, and adults, is that although I may not have control anymore as I once "thought I did" when they were toddlers and young children....although who am kidding....I had no real control lol
I can have influence to guide them to make great decisions for them self. I found the only way to have this influence is through 2 important and necessary ingredients. Connection and Empathy.
I find when I am having trouble with being an influence to guide them through teen years, I am lacking one or both of these 2 things.
It is so amazing watching the results of having the connection with my kids, and all 3 coming to me with not just little issues, but ones I would never have told my parents. Knowing, I can help them, being in the dark, they will be influenced by who knows who!
I am thinking of doing a seminar for parents and pre-teens and teens that are looking to find that connection and learn to have a peaceful household by learning new ways to relate. If anyone is interested in this, PM me.
