Glenn Berger, Phd

Glenn Berger, Phd Become your best self! On this site, and in my work, I offer support, growth, advice, wisdom, and love. Visit my blog at www.glennberger.net.

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04/30/2026

Greetings!

"The principle of self-cultivation consists in nothing but trying to find the lost heart." — Mencius, 372-289 BC

The beginnings of revitalizing your capacity for growth and flourishing begins with asking the right questions. It starts with being honest with yourself about where you are in your life right now.

I’m going to share a comprehensive diagnostic tool that I usually reserve for members of my HeartFinders Course that does just that: it invites you to start asking the right questions to give you a snapshot of where you are in your life right now.

What I’ve noticed is that when people are guided to look at things in this way their thinking changes. They begin to move away from the negative stories they repeat to themselves over and over. Their perspective broadens. They go to a deeper level of being, finding inner resources and inspiration that they sometimes didn’t even know existed within them. It’s beautiful to watch what emerges when they begin the process of finding their true selves.

find the link in the comments to: The Lost Heart Assessment

I invite you to give yourself this time to sit with yourself and dig deep.

Be honest, trust your answers, and be compassionate with yourself. Whatever the assessment reveals, remember: You're not broken. You're just disconnected from your authentic self.

I will have access to your results. If you like, let me know you’ve done this, and I’d be happy to provide you with feedback.

This assessment is just the beginning. Understanding where you are is the first step but an essential one.

Over the past 30 years, I've refined my philosophy and approach on what it takes to unleash our capacity for human flourishing based on ancient wisdom, modern psychology, and the real-world results of hundreds of people who've made the journey from disconnection to authentic living.

After you complete the assessment, I'll share more about this complete approach. But for now, just focus on getting clear about where you are.

Ready to discover the truth? TAKE THE LOST HEART ASSESSMENT NOW in the comments

Remember: Anything that can be lost can be found again. Including your heart.

With deep respect for your journey, Dr. Glenn Berger

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04/17/2026

The Monster in Your Hand

Here’s the 2026 syndrome that’s keeping you stuck. You know what you want to do but you can’t stick with your decisions. You can’t focus for more than five seconds on anything deep. You hate yourself. You play the comparison game and you always lose. Your mood bounces up and down from manic to depressed. You have too many bad habits to name, and some of them you’d be too embarrassed to even admit. The very thing you’d need to change it all is the thing you don’t have. Why is this happening?

The reason this is such a big problem for so many of us now is because our nervous systems are not built to handle the technological world that we are living in. Everything we are sold on our phones works by flooding us with way more dopamine than nature was ever meant to give us.

Dopamine is the chemical of pursuit. It provides the drive that keeps the hunter chasing that antelope for two days. When we get flooded with cheap dopamine the brain reduces the number and sensitivity of dopamine receptors. This makes us unmotivated and everyday life

boring. You are probably struggling with that reading this, if you’ve even read this far!

Social media does this by fragmenting our attention. The more you scroll the less brain matter you have in the pre-frontal cortex where you make decisions and keep to them, and are able to resist impulses and temptations.

The content we look at makes us feel worse about ourselves and fosters depression as we can never measure up to the AI created ideals we see on our screens.

Research shows that heavy use leads to an increase in self-harm and su***de.

Video games and the legalization of online gambling has created all kinds of problems. Gross revenue for online gambling has increased from $400 million to $17 billion in the last 8 years. 50 percent of gamblers either have serious problems or are at risk. The su***de rate is highest for this group. Games and gambling resemble slot-machines and hijack people’s time, money and attention.

Early use of online p**n causes a five year delay in social-emotional maturity. It creates a "mirror neuron" activation that can lead to social withdrawal and a decreased desire for real-world intimacy. This also has led to an increase in suicidal ideation because of a steep decline in self-esteem and "school connectedness."

We all wanted w**d to be legalized but the results have also created problems. Chronic exposure to high-THC strains which are now so easy to access in Apple-store like dispensaries downregulates dopaminergic activity in the nucleus accumbens, which is the brain's motivation center. This results in making it really hard to stick with anything.Over time, it significantly predicts lower grit and persistence. Overuse before the age of 21 is linked to a 2x higher risk of developing psychotic or bipolar disorders.

Everyone is drinking lots of alcohol and I’m seeing this cause all kinds of problems for many people. It disrupts the pathway between the brain's stress centers and the region governing habits. This makes the brain's response to stress "rigid" rather than "flexible," leading to increased anxiety during sober periods.

Binge drinking in the late teens significantly impairs the maturation of prefrontal circuits, leading to long-term deficits in complex problem-solving.

All of these dopamine disruptors are screwing up people’s sleep. Without good sleep the brain doesn’t get to repair and instead functions worse and worse.

We all know that despite social media presumably keeping us connected, young people report the highest levels of loneliness in recorded history, as digital interaction fails to activate the oxytocin-based bonding circuits that face-to-face contact provides.

Forgetting our DNA predispositions and life-history traumas that impact our ability to function, we are fighting a daily battle against the combined forces of capitalism and technology where a very few make lots of money off of screwing us up. So what do we do?

Some people might fight this on a structural, or political, level and I applaud that. Personally, I’m pessimistic that we will make much progress in that regard. So, I believe it will be on each of you to battle this personally.

How do you do that? Recognize that this is a serious problem that will require a serious effort on your part to resist, overcome, and solve. Right now, for many of you, the consequences are severe, and if you don’t combat this, things will only get worse. As technology advances, (hello AI) the ability to manipulate your brain will only become more effective and the danger to you as an individual will only increase. The plutocratic profit machine does not care about you or your long-term well-being. I’m not even going to get into the political ramifications of all this.

Once you take that first step and recognize and admit the seriousness of this danger, you will need to work on slowly developing the capacities that you have lost through long term use of these bio-chemical disruptors.

The next step is embracing abstinence. I like to call it renunciation. We often think of giving something up as a punishment. I like to reframe it as gaining time, energy, esteem and freedom. Some things are easier to renounce than others. You will probably need your phone to survive in today’s world, but you don’t need alcohol, w**d, video games, gambling, p**n, ni****ne or junk food. You might need to start with an “anchor” habit - giving it all up at once will feel overwhelming. How about giving up the w**d?

The next thing to recognize is that you can’t do this alone. The forces are so strong against you that you need all the allies you can muster to battle together.

This might mean going to one or more 12 step programs. This could mean having a therapist, a coach, mentors. This may mean being part of groups that provide other kinds of support as you struggle with these deeply ingrained habits that have hijacked your nervous system. Any time you are spending in these activities is time you are not captured by these spell-inducing virtual drugs. This could be using the technology against itself. The tools are not inherently bad and do some wonderful things. You need to learn how to use it effectively. This may, in part, mean using the tools to block usage.

Once you give up these dopamine destroyers, your brain will begin to reset. You’ll need patience for your neurological system to heal. Now you can replace these bad habits with better ones so you give your body the support to raise your natural dopamine base line. Things that help are sleep, exercise, good food, water, and supplements. Working with a functional medicine doctor is a good move here. You might need some medication, so getting the right psychiatrist could be important.

Finally comes behavioral training. You need to build the muscles of executive function, focus, grit, doing hard things, and perseverance. That’s what I provide in the videos and exercises in my course. Struggling through a 20 minute video to learn about the psychological forces that fight against you breaking bad habits is also a way to stretch your ability to focus. Doing an exercise where you dig deep and figure out what is truly important to you strengthens your ability to do some hard thinking. Doing a lesson a week builds perseverance.

This may all seem like a lot but the battle against the forces where our rapaciously capitalist system meets incredibly powerful technology requires an “all-of-the-above” approach. But remember this - your disempowerment - your inability to think straight, make good decisions, focus, do hard things and follow through over time - is exactly what keeps the billions and power flowing to that handful of people who own these virtual and actual drugs. Coming out of your spiritual, psychological and physical somnolence won’t be easy, but have the faith that it will get easier, and your life will get easier, if you keep at it.

Despite these deleterious forces, with faith, daily work, and community you can beat this thing, in fact, you can achieve anything. You can even beat the monster that you are holding in your hand.

04/02/2026

The Truth isn't Selling This Year

Years ago, an editor turned down my self-help book because she said, ‘The truth just isn’t selling this year.’ She was right.

We love to be lied to. We love it when politicians, marketers, and gurus tell us that getting what we want will be fast, easy, and simple.

But I’m going to tell you the reality that nobody wants to hear: The only way out of our current national and personal nightmare is slow, hard, and complicated.

The salesman in the white house understood that one rule for getting people to buy him as our leader.

All he had to do was tell the gullible public that fixing our problems would be fast, easy, and simple. And he won. Twice.

So yes, we have seen that you can fool a lot of people a lot of the time if you simply use those three magic words. Fast, easy, and simple.

Now we have some evidence about whether that works. Let’s check that out.

As a psychotherapist, coach, and mentor, I’ve spent decades helping people get unstuck. and what I’m going to show you is that our national political circus is just our personal psychology written on a massive scale.

You see, our great salesman understood that one rule to get people to buy. All you have to do is tell them that the way for them to get what they want will be fast, easy, and simple. So yes, we have seen that you can fool a lot of people a lot of the time if you simply use those three magic words. Fast, easy, simple.

Another thing that our sales gurus tell us is that we must speak with absolute conviction and certainty. I’ll break that rule, too right now.

I have convinced myself that after decades of sitting with people, reading the words of the wise and going through my own process of transformation, that I have some idea of some of what I call “the universal laws of reality.”

One of those universal laws corresponds to something Confucius said, which was, “you cannot pull the shoots.” This means that growth happens at nature’s rate. When tiny shoots come out of the ground, if you tug them and try to make them grow faster than nature allows, you’ll simply pull them out of the ground. That’s what I observe in people, and that’s back up for my “hard, slow, and complicated,” claim.

But what if I’ve been wrong about this? What if my biased eye isn’t seeing what might be right in front of my nose? Maybe getting what you want in life is fast, easy and simple?

The beauty of the current moment, if we can call it beauty, is that we have evidence for our national experiment in this sales pitch. Let’s see how it is going. Our very own Elmer Gantry, “Lonesome” Rhodes, Professor Harold Hill, Buzz Windrip, and Wizard of Oz (I’ll tell you who these people are a little bit later) promised to end the Ukraine war, lower grocery prices, dismantle the “deep state,” eliminate 2 trillion in spending, end birthright citizenship, end the income tax with tariffs, deport twenty million people, end conflict in the middle east, bring world peace, bring manufacturing back to America, and have so much winning that we would get tired of winning on his first day in office.

Now whether you liked those promises or not, it does appear that those universal laws of reality have some teeth. None of those promises came true. Not on the first day. Not at all.

Elon Musk’s D.O.G.E. was an utter disaster. The few billion he may have excised from our spending has already been spent in the Iran War, and the main result of the program has been untold children’s deaths. After a massive backlash, Musk retreated, mewling, with his tail between his legs, to go on to his more important task of selling his AI platform, Grok, by allowing it to make n**e fakes of the mother of one of his children.

The Ukraine War grinds on. Trump’s “special relationship” with his doppelganger Putin has yielded nothing but more death and destruction.

Sautéing in the Orwellian peace-prize Iran non-war, oil prices are skyrocketing and grocery prices, along with inflation in general, are following suit.

Talking about that Iranian excursion, peace has not been brought to the middle east. Quite the contrary, we now see chaos, destruction, and death spreading throughout the region and economic pain throughout the world.

Thankfully, birthright citizenship remains. The administration hasn’t quite figured out how to toss out the constitution yet. We’ll see what the Supreme Court has to say about this.

We still have an income tax and the see-saw of tariffs end up being an additional regressive tax on the American consumer without lowering our deficit spending. The tariffs were named unconstitutional, so there is a strong likelihood that whatever monies came in from these taxes will have to be returned.

Yes, Stephen Miller and his minions are doing their best to create concentration camps and hiring anyone with a trigger happy finger to round up just about anyone with brown skin that they can find, but even the N***s couldn’t round up all the Jews on day one. Thankfully, our incompetent band of sociopaths are way off track to that 20 million number.

In contrast to the manufacturing boom promised, there has been a net loss of 100,000 jobs in that sector, mostly blamed on Trump’s tariffs and the economic uncertainty he has created.

There is our evidence! Fast, easy, and simple is bu****it!

Now that the campaign is over and the bamboozling is proving to be just that, what is the new story that the administration is promulgating? Believe it or not, it is the universal law that change is slow, hard, and complex.

For example, tariffs have been causing Americans pain. Economic analysts estimate these import taxes are costing the average U.S. household between $1,000 and $2,400 extra per year, driving up prices on everything from groceries to cars and appliances. The administration argues that this financial squeeze is a necessary sacrifice to force multinational companies to stop relying on cheap foreign labor, build factories on U.S. soil, and revitalize American manufacturing and that things will improve over time. Give it time, they tell us now.

The American agricultural sector has taken a massive hit. The 2025–2026 crop season resulted in an estimated $34.6 billion in losses, particularly devastating the soybean market as foreign buyers simply sourced their crops from other countries. Republican lawmakers and administration officials are telling farmers they must endure this shrunken export market to “level the global playing field,” and that this will lead to better days in the future. Not so fast, is it?

Yes, it turns out that improving the American economy for the vast majority of people is slow, hard and complicated.

In fact, this abrupt about face on reality is the exact sentiment that has become the central justification for the massive military operations the U.S. and Israel launched against Iran at the end of February.

When President Trump addressed the nation on February 28 to announce the major strikes he directly addressed the inevitable human and economic toll. He stated: “We may have casualties. That often happens in war. But we’re doing this not for now. We’re doing this for the future. And it is a noble mission.”

However, the “short-term pain” side of that equation has escalated rapidly over the last three weeks: According to recent Pentagon leaks to Congress, just the first week of this new phase of the war cost the U.S. roughly $11.3 billion. The U.S. is rapidly chewing through its stockpiles of incredibly expensive missile defense interceptors (like the $13 million THAADs). To keep the campaign going, the administration is reportedly drafting emergency supplemental funding requests running anywhere from $50 billion to $200 billion.

Iran’s retaliation has effectively paralyzed shipping through the Strait of Hormuz (which normally handles about a quarter of global seaborne oil). As a result, global oil benchmarks recently spiked above $112 a barrel. If the strait remains closed, economists are warning of a massive secondary spike in gas prices and inflation back home, compounding the economic squeeze Americans are already feeling from the administration’s tariffs.

Yes, it turns out that war, more often than not, is slow, hard, and complicated.

Yet, despite this evidence, as David Hannum allegedly said, there’s a sucker born every minute. Some 40% of the American public still prefer the gooey comfort of the fast, easy, simple lie than face the actually more promising reality of slow, difficult, and complicated.

Why do they buy it? Before I get into the internal psychology of it all, we need to acknowledge that there is a long lineage of American characters from fiction who fit the mold of the “charismatic charlatan” or the “American confidence man” who turns into a demagogue. These prescient creators anticipated the rise of Trump. The only mystery is why it took so long for someone like this to assume the ultimate mantle of power.

There is no perfect psychopathological category in the standard manual of diagnoses, but each one of these characters, that I named before – Elmer Gantry, “Lonesome” Rhodes, professor Harold Hill, Buzz Windrip and the Wizard share common characteristics.

While their specific arenas differ - evangelical religion (Gantry from the novel “Elmer Gantry” by Sinclair Lewis), mass media and television (Rhodes from the film “A Face in the Crowd”), traveling sales (Hill from “The Music Man”), and fascist politics (Windrip from Sinclair Lewis’s all too prophetic book, “It Can’t Happen Here”) they all operate using the exact same psychological playbook.

They are masters of the common touch. They present themselves as straight-talking “men of the people” who understand the struggles of the average citizen. In reality, this is a highly calculated performance; behind closed doors, they often view their followers with contempt, seeing them merely as gullible “marks.”

They do not persuade with logic; they mesmerize with rhythm, rhetoric, and showmanship. Whether it is a revival tent, a television broadcast, a town square, or a political rally, they are entertainers first. They use emotional crescendo and fast-talking cadence to bypass their audience’s critical thinking. These are classic Ericksonian hypnotic techniques.

They possess a predatory instinct for figuring out what a community is most desperate for, whether it is salvation, civic pride, a return to a mythical “golden age,” or protection from outsiders—and they sell the illusion of it.

They represent the dark side of American exceptionalism, hustle, and salesmanship. They embody the idea that reinvention and aggressive self-promotion can be weaponized to achieve absolute power, wealth, or adoration without any underlying moral foundation.

The ultimate symbol of the type might be the Wizard of Oz, the “man behind the curtain.” He is a literal carnival barker and balloon salesman from Omaha who uses pyrotechnics, fear, and grand promises to rule an entire nation, despite having no actual power to make anything happen.

These masters of manipulation have no contact with a conscience, what we conventionally call sociopathic. They pray on human weakness and exploit it for their own gain of money and power with no concern about the consequences to others.

We now have entire industries of advertisers, marketers, sales people, who have turned these techniques into a science. These manipulations have been embedded into our technologies. They are inescapable, as we are offered every shortcut to fulfillment, drowning out the voices of wisdom that tell us that fulfillment comes from immersion, it comes from the investment of time and energy.

Why spend a lifetime cultivating enlightenment when you can take the shortcut of a couple of bumps of co***ne, some milligrams of M**A, a THC gummy, and a few cocktails? Oh, and if you actually want to put some effort into it, go upstate and vomit into a bowl and meet the Great Mother on that Ayahuasca journey.

If you are not into that, find your favorite kink by clicking a button or two on your phone. Try for the get rich quick of online gambling. Feel the satisfaction of pressing the angry emoji on your political enemy’s 30-second obnoxious TikTok.

Here’s the problem with fast, easy and simple. All those promises turn out to do just the opposite. Whether we are talking about wars in the Middle East or your inability to find satisfaction in work, love, and life, every time you try to take a shortcut you get further away from your destination.

It’s not easy. Oh yeah, that’s what I’m saying. Temptation is everywhere. The wise of all time have been banging this drum of the true path since Buddha sat under the tree for 49 days and nights. Since Moses travelled through the desert for 40 years. Since Jesus wandered through the desert for 40 days and 40 nights. (That big number? That’s a symbol for “long”.)

But has anyone listened? Clearly, only a few. In fact, this is central to the problems that people bring into my therapy office. This leads to one way of defining what we amorphously call “neurosis.” These are people who are stuck in their lives, who are living far beneath their potential whose symptoms include self-loathing, avoidance, procrastination, fear, bad habits, pessimism, resistance to learning, and poor self-care.

I don’t like these words like neurosis, anxiety or depression because I do not believe they capture human complexity. I prefer the construction of the ancient Chinese sage Mencius who wrote about this 2500 years ago, and called it having a “lost heart.” He tells us that in order to find our hearts we need to “self-cultivate.”

That is, just like the farmer needs to tend his land, respecting the process of natural growth and understanding the complex laws of nature, he needs perseverance and daily work to have the greatest yield, that is, to be in a constant condition of growth, moving ever forward to becoming our best selves and living our best lives.

He tells us that when we follow that path of daily work, of digging deep, of non-stop learning, that through that process itself, we find access to what he calls “flood-like Ch’I” which scientists might call mitochondria, but which we mystics might call the infinite energy of the universe. That is hard, long work builds on itself and leads to freedom, success and fulfillment.

We have been sold a bill of goods, believing that everything will come to us without time, effort, and learning. The result is all too many of us are spiritually flabby. Just like we get into good shape by working out several times a week, we develop the capacities for pride, confidence, courage, strength, faith and love by working on them every day.

If we don’t work out, you get physically flabby and susceptible to all kinds of physical ailments. If we don’t take the slow, hard and complicated path of daily development, we become spiritually flabby and subject to all kinds of psychological ailments. We become increasingly susceptible to the hypnotic charms of the demagogue, the drug, or the phone.

And that’s how our country ended up where it is right now. The clever sociopaths have rendered the masses pliable and weak. And anyone like me, who is saying slow, hard, and complicated is better than fast, easy and simple, is simply drowned out by all the noise that screams the opposite.

The facts are in folks. If you have any doubt, check out the news. The ancients knew it but they were ignored in their day and very few of us want to pay attention to this inconvenient truth.

I guess the editor was right. This message? It’s just not selling this year.

Glenn Berger PhD

03/30/2026

For all you "alter-cockers" out there, here is my chapter in the book "How to Craft Your Chapter X" . . .

If you are lucky, you are old — or you are going to get old. If you are a person who has had a successful work life, that is something to be very grateful for. But if that is over, or is going to be over soon, that can be very challenging. If you are not that old, and you are getting pushed out of your work identity, that can be very painful.

So, starting with the good stuff, it’s good that you are alive. But for many, it can be very difficult to transition into the post-professional part of your life. This book, and the following words, are here to help you with that.

I’m a psychotherapist and coach. Here are a few stories.
A guy in his mid-fifties came to see me because he was experiencing overwhelming anxiety. He couldn’t sleep, and his rumination was driving him, well, crazy. He’d worked for a firm for thirty years. He had the sinking feeling in his stomach that he was being pushed out. As this became a reality, he plunged into a depression.

Here’s another one. I worked with a woman who inherited a retail company from her father. She grew the company into a substantial brand. When the financial crisis hit, she couldn’t pay her short-term debts and the banks wouldn’t give her any money. Instead of taking the good advice of her partners, she couldn’t let the business go. She couldn’t face the decision and ended up with virtually nothing.

One more. I worked with a man who was a very successful artist. When he came to see me in his 70s, he was in conflict. He was tired. He was uninspired. He knew that his best work was behind him. He’d had some health issues. He was being told to take it easy. But what would he do, who would he be, without the accolades?
Underneath all these stories is one unspoken word — mortality.

The end of our central roles in the work world points to the fact that we are one significant step closer to the end of it all. Of all the issues that one can bring into therapy, mortality is one that we can’t fix.

So, what is one to do?

First, let’s look through one lens to deepen our understanding of what is going on here. Robert Moore, an archetypal psychologist deeply influenced by the psychological pioneer Carl Jung, came up with a four-stage framework for the lifespan of a man. (I would say that there are, and can be, parallels for women, but for now we’ll go with his structure.)

Moore claimed that the four stages of a man’s life are Puer, Hero, King, and Senex.
The Puer is the youth. Like the bumblebee, he doesn’t know that physicists say he shouldn’t be able to fly, yet somehow he jumps off cliffs and survives. The Puer is idealistic, takes risks, rebels against authority, and doesn’t care about the contingencies of life.
The Hero leaves his home to go on adventure, slay dragons, and win the princess. He seeks to prove himself through struggle, ambition, and external achievement — often testing his limits and forming his identity in the world.
The King sits on his throne and holds dominion over his realm. He represents stability, achievement, and benevolent power.
Finally, the Senex represents old age. He is the Wise Elder. He represents an inward turn toward meaning, legacy, giving back, and spiritual insight.
Together, these archetypes provide a powerful lens for understanding the psychological tasks and transitions of a man’s life.

As individuals move into their post-professional years, many face a loss of identity, purpose, and social relevance — challenges that can be meaningfully understood through this lens of archetypal psychology. This shift often feels disorienting in modern cultures that prize material goods over contemplation and relevance over introspection. In a world that often discards and ignores our wise elders, there is no healthy model for this passage. As a result, people often struggle to relinquish their former roles because they don’t even have the first clue of what they are supposed to do next. We all know the cliché — the man retires and dies on the golf course.

So what is the answer?

If you are young enough, don’t put all of your identity eggs in one basket. Yes, in order to succeed we need to give our work a great deal of time. And we may also want to have a family or relationship life outside of our work. (Let’s not forget the meaning of those relationships.) But there’s still time to pursue avocations beyond the work you do for money. Be creative. Start a side hustle. Volunteer. Save us from tyranny. Learn something new. Grow vegetables. Make TikToks!

Or how about this one: start learning about the most interesting subject in the world — you. Go on a deep dive into making yourself the best person you can be. Start working on it now, because if you do, when you reach that Senex stage, you’ll already have plenty to do.

If you are already there, I’ll admit, it’s harder. But why can’t you teach an old dog new tricks? Who said? Read the last paragraph and start doing all those things now. The world still needs you, especially when it comes to preventing tyranny. And we can add a few more to this list. You can teach. You can mentor.

Common wisdom has it that philosophy is for the old. It is also said that all philosophies, religion, and art are ultimately about accepting our mortality. (Maybe art is also about s*x, but that’s another essay.) Jung tells us that in the second half of life our development turns inward, toward the spiritual. Yet, again, we have no guides for this in our modern world. Even organized religion often fails to show us a satisfying way in this regard. So that leaves a few ways of doing this.

One is to — dare I say it in this phone-based world — read. Immerse yourself in the inherited wisdom of humankind from every era and culture. Here are a few suggestions: the writings of Ptahhotep from Egypt; the Greek Dialogues of Plato and Socrates; the Nicomachean Ethics of Aristotle; the Upanishads from India; The Four Books of Chinese Wisdom; Grimm’s Fairy Tales; Man and His Symbols by Carl Jung. Go deep!

Second, work with an old guide, like me. It is important to have a place where you can dialogue about these issues, where it is safe to talk about decay and death with someone who gets it.
Third, find a group of like-minded seekers who don’t sit around and “kvetch,” but can do something positive together, even if it is just tell jokes and laugh.

Of course, stay active and physical. Dance. Love. Walk in nature. Look out to sea. Get some perspective on eternity. You are almost there.

We can focus on the sadness of what we are losing, or we can find joy in what we have right now. Cultivate “appreciative consciousness,” the ability “To see a World in a Grain of Sand, And a Heaven in a Wild Flower …”

Finally, let us work toward the thing we all want but none of us have: acceptance. Buddhism tells us that suffering comes from attachment. What we are most attached to is life — the thing we are surest to lose. And knowing that we are going to die hurts like hell. I sure ain’t no Buddha, so I don’t pretend to have let go of that attachment. But we can all work toward it.

When we get old, we don’t have the same energy we once had. The Rolling Stones may not write another H***y Tonk Women. Whether they should or not, the world may not be as interested in us as it once was. You’ll probably get replaced by someone younger, stupider, and certainly cheaper. Maybe even AI. You’ve had a good run. At least there’s nothing to be afraid of anymore. You might as well sing that song you’ve kept in all these years. You might as well work on that painting you always wanted to do but never did because you had to make a living instead.

Framing this life stage as an archetypal journey helps us see the end of your professional life not as an end, but as part of a vital transformation into a phase rich with insight, mentorship, and inner growth.

Don’t believe what your boss tells you. We need you. The world needs you. Your loved ones need you. We need your wisdom. We need your love. You have something important to give. Stick around and give it.

Oh, and while you are at it, do what you can to save us from tyranny.

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