Test Your Why

07/30/2026

Allow yourself to feel the pull of your deepest yearnings. Pay attention to the way you light up differently when you live the way you love to live. There is your WHY. Dr. J. Hilleren & T. Carlson with us.

07/26/2026

Each day, each moment - choose growth. We are!

06/20/2026

05/21/2026

2016 Tay Tay would look at this version of me and see someone who stopped shrinking. Someone who chose courage. Someone who kept moving forward. Every setback taught me how to pivot. Every disappointment taught me what no longer aligned. Every closed door pushed me closer to a life that actually feels like mine. And the smile now? Bigger from the battles. Brighter from the growth & of course a little unhinged from the plot twists. Life’s about to get wild in the best way. The more I declined what drained me, the more aligned I became with who I really am. 2016 Tay Tay would be proud as hell. Next chapter ready or not here I come. Party of 1 with a village behind me ready for fun!🤪🏡❤️💯🔥🤜🤛🚀

04/07/2026

🎉🎊Happy birthday to my best friend, and the person riding sh***un with me through all of life’s plot twists & adventures…Dr. Jay🎉🎊 Testing our why in real time, asking a million questions, laughing mid-sentence, changing plans on the fly, and somehow still making it all work. We keep it real, we keep it fun, and… half the time we don’t fully know what we’re doing, but we’re absolutely going for it anyway. And that’s what makes it us. There is no one else I’d rather be on this ride with. The way we show up, the laughs that turn into tears because we’re laughing that hard, the real conversations, the “wait… what?” moments, the let’s just try it energy…it’s everything. Your kindness. Your heart. Your grit. And yes, your savage stubbornness…I love every bit of it. You don’t just talk about showing up, you live it. You lead with who you are, unapologetically, and it makes everyone around you better. Me included.

We’ve had the highs, the messy middles, the moments where we look at each other like “are we really doing this?”… and every time, it’s a yes. Because together, we are better. Always have been. Always will be. Cheers to another year of going all in, laughing way too hard, and making memories that only we could make. HAPPY BIRTHDAY!!! 🔥🎉💯❤️🚀

03/17/2026

The only thing more powerful than hate is love ❤️

03/10/2026

Your why is what calls you forward when something in your gut says, “step up.” Your why is what pushes you to stand beside someone even when the moment feels heavy. Your why is what reminds you that kindness, courage, and connection are choices we make every single day. So when life puts you in front of a moment like that classroom yesterday, do not look away. Lean in. Stand up. Show up because the world does not change through comfort. It changes when people are brave enough to live their why. And when enough people choose courage over fear, something powerful begins to happen. Communities get stronger. People feel seen. Love moves forward. That is the work. That is the courage. That is Test Your Why. ❤️ - Tay Tay & Dr. Jay

03/04/2026

Surround yourself with people who see you. Not just when you are winning. Not just when it looks polished. But when you are scared. When you are questioning. When you are standing at the edge of something exciting and terrifying with your hands shaking a little, and still carrying that solid f**k yes, we are doing this energy.

The last several weeks have stretched me. I have had to sit with real fear. The kind that hands you a list of what ifs and tries to dress them up as truth. What if it fails? What if you are not ready? What if, what if… When my fears were loud, my mom said, Tay Tay, you cannot focus on the what ifs. All you can do is focus on what is. Hot damn. Because that is it. Fear will always offer hypotheticals. Courage plants its feet in reality. That is Test Your Why. It is not just a phrase. It is an anchor. When your mind starts drifting into every worst case scenario, your why pulls you back. It reminds you what matters. It reminds you who you are. It asks, is this aligned? And if the answer is yes, then you move.

So I made a decision. A big one. & the people who truly want to see you win will connect you to others who want to see you win. Solid people. Grounded people. People who help make it happen. People who sit with you in your fear and Still make you feel excited about your journey and the next chapter. They do not shrink when you grow. They help you rise. & that is this guy. Thank you, Andy. For being steady. For being calm when I was going cray & for reminding me who I am when the noise got loud. Also yes, we are in March with Christmas trees in the background & a February 29th calendar moment. Nobody has it all together. We are all just out here building courage in real time.

Here’s to 2026 gettin’ unexpectedly bold. Badass. & beautiful. Own your pace. Own your race. Fck fear. Fck yes. Here we go.🏡❤️💯🚀

02/18/2026

Talking about s*x can be uncomfortable due to implicit and explicit messages around s*xuality. Talking about s*x involves vulnerability as there are aspects of our lives we often hide and have fear of judgment about. Embracing this discomfort requires courage to communicate openly.

Dr. Jay will be presenting to students at the University of Wisconsin, where this will be a safe space & questions are encouraged & welcomed to better understand ourselves & others. Good luck, Dr. Jay! & if anyone has additional questions or interest regarding this topic, please reach out directly.